I wrote a few months ago about the series of values pages I’m making for my children. I make a new page every so often and add them to the Everyday Display in the kitchen near the bar where the children sit to eat breakfast. It’s been an excellent exercise for me. Not only am I happy to have these things written for my children, but I’ve been challenged myself and have been forced to consider whether I’m living the values I’m writing about or not.
My latest page was about continually improving. And I wandered into thinking about what motivates change in people, and in me, in particular. Wise people change because it’s a good thing to do, the right thing to do. Foolish people wait until the pain of not changing is unbearable.
I know whereof I speak. For years, I have needed to lose weight. Like many women my age, it seems to be becoming more and more difficult, well, for those women my age who are actually trying. I am not. I should be. I talk about it sometimes, but I am not trying. Over the years, I’ve been as small as a size 10 and as large as a size 22. I weigh more now than when I was pregnant with each of my children and the scale’s numbers keep getting higher. I work too hard; I don’t take the time to plan meals; I don’t exercise. The ‘no exercise’ thing is new. Before I went back to work a couple of years ago, I did exercise regularly. I guess that’s why I’ve ballooned over the past two years! Duh.
My friend shared a list of the Five Stages of a Motivated Person. I printed it out and put it in my line of sight at work.
A highly motivated person achieves each of these:
1. Recognizes desire
Honestly, I may be stuck here. I want to be wise enough not to be stuck here. At other points in my life I wanted to lose weight but I really don’t know if I want to. I know what it takes. I know the sacrifices in other areas of my life and time commitments and I’m a little too busy to fit all that in right now! Maybe that’s one of the biggest problems, in fact. I have too much to do. I want to want to lose weight. It’s having a negative impact on my health (though I rarely feel it) but I know intellectually that it must.
2. Faces fears
I used to be afraid to lose weight. I’m not anymore. I used to be afraid of a lot of things. I’m not anymore. Not as many, at least.
3. Moves out of her comfort zone
My comfort zone includes a big cushy chair and a laptop. Or a textbook and laptop. Or just a laptop. How’s my lap going to get smaller if I don’t put down the laptop?!
4. Set goals in life
I am very good at setting goals in the rest of my life. And, when I get started on the weight loss journey, I’ll be very good at it. I’ve been successful before in the past. I become highly focused and get ‘er done! It was the day-to-day lifetime commitment that I had problems with.
5. Become highly disciplined
I’m going to have to do this over time. That’s the challenge for me. I can be disciplined for short spurts. That’s why desire is so important, I guess!
If you’re a praying person, please pray for me. I need to reorder my life a bit to make time for this very important pursuit. I want to be around to play with my grandchildren and great grandchildren. (See my blog on Priorities.) What I’m praying for myself right now is that I develop a true desire, that I find a local friend who has a very competitive spirit who can push me to stay engaged, and that I go ahead and do what I already know to do!