Happy Talk Blog Header_JanIt’s here!  Wedding Day for my ‘baby’ girl is tomorrow.  Now that the day is almost upon us, I am in action, finally!  It’s a good thing I was able to raise my children to be responsible adults who are excellent planners and deadline-meeters (somehow!!).  Perhaps it was reverse psychology, or maybe they just saw how procrastination can increase stress levels (if not in their mom, in themselves and their dad!), but at any rate, it worked.  Kim has done an incredible job juggling her job (which took her to Ireland for a week last month), moving unexpectedly (the house she rented with two other women is now for sale, a month earlier than expected), being a supportive spouse-to-be for her fiance (who started a new job recently), attending showers (lucky girl!), writing thank you notes (a gracious plenty, thanks to incredible and generous friends), and trying to get her mother to pay attention to ‘to-do’ lists and pay bills (a near-impossible task) all while checking off her own wedding ‘to-do’ items.

I had to chuckle at how things change – when I got married, my mom did all the planning.  I remember addressing invitations, getting my dress (mom’s) fitted, registering china, crystal, and silver, going to showers, and writing thank you notes.  I think Mom did all the rest!  My list of duties for Kim’s wedding has been even shorter, and even so, I’m behind.  This past weekend (T minus 7 days), I decided what dress and shoes I would be wearing to the wedding.  Still undecided, on the day I wrote this (T minus 3 days), is what I will wear to the rehearsal dinner.

Just last week I was starting, finishing, and ordering the guest register that Kim had asked me to create.  Thank goodness for the Panstoria Print Shop!!  No kidding – I started the book on Wednesday morning (T minus 10 days), ordered it on Wednesday evening, (paid extra for next-day air shipping), got notice the book shipped on FRIDAY, and Kim had it in her hands when she got home on Monday afternoon (T minus 5 days).  What was I sweating for?  We had plenty of time!  But was I ever happy to hear Kim say, “Mom, it’s perfect!  Thank you!”  Now I can’t wait to see it!

If you have married children, you know what I mean when I say it will be a bittersweet day when my only daughter says, “I do!”.  It’s the moment I spent eighteen years of full-time mom duty and another ten years of part-time momness working toward, praying that I taught her and showed her by example ALL of the important things I want her to know (including but not limited to):

  • that she has everything she needs to create her own happiness
  • that she is responsible for her own happiness
  • that she always has a choice
  • that her choices always have consequences
  • that she’ll be able to live with both her choices and their consequences
  • that love is enough, but that it’s not always easy to love enough
  • that marriage, like any relationship worth keeping and nurturing, takes work and daily diligence
  • that ‘two becoming one’ is something to cherish and protect always
  • that no matter how much she loves Blake, she will always want and need girlfriends
  • that all women need their own bank account, even if it’s a small one (for now, anyway!)
  • that money is great, but it’s not everything
  • that it is important to be a good steward of her (and their) resources – time, money, talent, relationships, possessions – and of the earth
  • that she can do ANYTHING she wants to do, if she wants it badly enough and is willing to work for it
  • that faith in God is crucial, and that His plan for her is a good one
  • that I love her more than she can imagine right now, but that I hope someday she will know what I mean when she’s a mom

I could keep going, but you understand, right?  Did I imprint these things on her heart?  Will she remember them?  Will she come to me if she doesn’t?  More than anything, I want her to be happy and to be fulfilling her life’s purpose.  I want her to put Blake’s needs ahead of hers, just as he puts hers ahead of his.  I want her to remember that God is at the center of her home and her heart.  I want her to feel and be loved, cherished, and protected.  I want her to have the tools and skills she will need when things don’t go as planned, or when times are tough.  I want her to be resilient and resourceful and responsible.  I want her to be a mom (when the time is right and if she wants to be).  I want her and Blake to be a united pair – a team – respectful of each other and caring for each other.  I want the two of them to balance each other and lift each other up.  I want her to remember to pray and to be grateful for her many blessings.  Most of all, I want her to know that I so admire and respect the beautiful, kind, loving, generous, intelligent, responsible, caring woman she has become, and that I love her more than I knew was possible.

I guess I did keep going, didn’t I?  I can’t help it – it’s a mom thing!  I am so excited for Kim to start her life with the man she has chosen, and I pray that their union is blessed and happy and long-lasting.  I am looking forward to having our family together to celebrate this glorious day. I am thankful that both Kim and Blake have kept the wedding itself in perspective and that they have chosen to focus on the purpose of the celebration – the sacrament of holy matrimony.  I am happy, happy, happy!

<Cue bell ringing!>

P.S. I can’t wait to see all of the pictures – maybe I won’t wait forever to get them in a book!! (David, no comments, please!!)  Here are a few courtship and engagement photos of the blissful couple:

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20 Responses to Blog: Wedding Bells Are Ringing

  1. 66Morgan 66Morgan says:

    Congratulations, jan. My daughter wAs married last July. Can’t believe it will almost be a year.. Time flies. I loved all your “important things” list. Enjoy reliving the moment when you receive the photos.

  2. It looks like everything went great! Your daughter was a beautiful bride and the mother of the bride was absolutely radiant in the photos posted!

  3. Kerrianne says:

    Pretty sure it will be a magical day full of love! Your list, i’m sure will be full-filled, read over and over, scrunched up and scribbled on but mostly cherished forever!! A lifetime of happiness to you Kim and Blake.

  4. I love this LIST and having 2 girls you’ve listed things I wish for, too, and then some! How wonderful for you today Happy Jan to celebrate this happy happy happy occasion! Love and hugs! XO

  5. Sherry says:

    Love your thoughts on this very important day for Kim. You shared from your heart those things that are blessings of a “Mother’s” heart. They are feelings, wishes and hopes that we hold fast to in our heart for our children as we watch them grow, mature, and fly on their own. Jan, you are a blessing!

  6. Anne says:

    Happy Wedding Day Kim! And what a perfect letter to let Kim know how it feels to be a happy MOB. I know she’ll print this out and save it for a time in the future when she’ll be feeling the same way.
    Much love and happiness to you all on this special day!

  7. Penny says:

    Thinking of all of you today – Kim & Blake as they start the next phase of their lives surrounded by loving family and friends, and you and your husband on such a turning-point day for parents. Happy, happy, happy wishes!!

  8. Janice says:

    Loving your list of “girl ALL important stuff”. Think I’ll print this off and give it to my daughter – just so it’s written down.
    I’m sure you’ll all have a wonderful day – so glad that book arrived on time. Happy ever after Kim & Blake!!! xx

  9. Oh I love this Jan! I just went shopping today for my mother of the groom last minute stuff – the jewelry that has to match perfectly with the shoes and dress, and this week I started creating the guest book, too. My baby boy is getting married next month, and just like your love for your daughter oozes out of this blog post, I feel the same for my son! This is such an exciting time! I pray Kim’s wedding day is blessed with fun and celebration!

  10. Carolyn says:

    This is such a nice expression of your love and faith. Best blog ever. Nothing you’ve written before even comes close. I loved it! Enjoy the weekend!

  11. jolleyontheroad jolleyontheroad says:

    Great Blog!! Have a wonderful weekend!! Can’t wait to see all the pics and pages!! Many blessings to the happy, happy, happy couple and to the happy, happy, happy Mom!!

  12. dachiemama dachiemama says:

    Have a wonderful time. The wedding of your daughter is a special time. My daughter got married last summer. Their first anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks. The top of their cake is ready in our freezer for them. All I can say is cherish it and enjoy it. I wish your daughter and her new husband a lifetime of happiness.

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