As I get older, I’m finding that with all the running around I’m doing with Day2Day life and a slew of appointments that seem to be hitting the calendar more and more, the more I seem to have fallen into a rut and am not looking after myself. With busy lives of having a family, working, and trying to keep that balancing act of running everywhere and trying to not let the wheels fall off, I’m letting things lapse that are important to me. A lot of people I know, or chat to as I’m running from one thing to the next and ask what I do, think it’s absolutely fabulous that I am able to work from home. And, they are not wrong! It is fabulous to be able to work from home. But, that can have its downsides. There is no real “time out” unless I create it. Sometimes the boundaries of when I am working overlap into when the rest of the family are home. If I’m honest – that means a lot of the time. Due to the nature of p2P I find as I’m getting ready to head to bed, America is waking up – and then I take a peek at the new round of emails and Facebook messages – and quite suddenly it’s close to, or after midnight – and that all important sleep that we are supposed to be getting before midnight has just slipped away in what can seem like mere moments.
Working from home also generates the feeling that I am “on call” 24/7. Taxi driving, pick-ups from school, answering questions even though I may be in the middle of of work, “Mum, I need you to come here”, “Mum, can you help me with this”, “Mum, I can’t find my jeans/socks/t-shirt/book/homework”, or the most common “Mum, there’s nothing to eat in the house” – when I’m sure we could probably live off what’s in the fridge or pantry for at least 3 weeks! It’s a balancing act that is hard for those of us who work from home. Don’t get me wrong – I love that I can work from home, but sometimes I reflect back on not long ago when I was doing some contract work for 4 months, while still doing p2P work as well, that catching the train to the city and back was like “down time” for me. Time for me to either sit and gaze out the window without really having to answer to anyone, or sit and read my book (as long as I had my headphones on so I didn’t hear all the commuters having very public (but private) conversations on their mobile phones because they just have to be talking to someone the entire commute! And, I got a lunch break, that really was a lunch break and didn’t involve eating in front of the computer!
So – now I have decided that I need to reset, refocus, replan, redistribute, rezone and redo my life a bit. I have to concentrate on me! What works for me to be the best person I can be. What makes me happy? Happy so that the happiness comes out and makes those I love happy to be around me. I need to pick myself up out of the mess I’ve made around my house – declutter, chuck way more stuff in a more concentrated effort (and by “stuff” I mean both physical & emotional things that I’ve been hanging onto for way too long). Refocus on my diet (and by that I mean eating healthily again). Oh I do hate how winter can affect what I manage to stuff into my body that I know is bad for me. With spring just around the corner, and summer just 3 months away, I need to get out more and walk, get fresh air, clear my head, and enjoy the simple things that make me happy so I can be productive when I am working, and to have fun times with my kids again, rather than just sitting in front of my laptop most of the time.
So here’s the plan:
- 15 minutes of sunshine every day
- Eat healthy – nothing processed, everything fresh and no sugar!
- Walk every day – and that will make little Molly happy too!
- Designate work time and stick to it.
- Don’t get distracted when working on one task – finish it, then move on to the next.
- Trash, donate, recycle what I don’t need and will never use – and that includes my craft stash.
- Plan meals.
- Juice fresh vegies every morning (I was so good at this, and then lost the plot, and it does make me feel good and my skin feel healthy if I do this every day).
- Read every day (can be combined with #1).
- Laugh – every day!
- Sleep – every night, for at least 8 hours. (I really don’t do sleep deprivation well.)
- Plan for a holiday – one just for me – one for the family.
- Don’t feel guilty about “me” time.
- Stop making excuses – just get on with it
So there it is. This is my plan. You might be wondering how or what made me want to write all of this down and possibly hope that someone might be interested in reading it? I have been feeling uncomfortable with myself for a while, unhealthy, lethargic, rundown. So I could have made this decision at any time – but the big prompt that has kicked my “a” into gear was the letter “Q”. The Day2Day theme for 17th – 23rd August. As I was thinking of all the things to take photos of starting with “Q” for that week, I was walking on the beach on a winter’s day with a girlfriend after a particularly rough week for her. I had a little thought, that I needed to start my “Quest for Quality”, and that it was going to be all about making a better me.